Being "boring" is often looked at as a negative. And a lot of the time it is. As social animals, when you don't connect with others, when you don't interest others, it can cause isolation, which it is in our DNA to avoid for survival reasons. But this drive to avoid being boring sometimes could do with tempering.

I want you to embody boredom as a good thing. When you decide to get your act together, and you feel like having healthy sleeping patterns, applying yourself to your future, disengaging with things that will bring you down. When you feel that dread of being boring, turn dread into pride. You know what you are doing. You are asserting your autonomy in a positive way.

But there is a personal side to this as well. In an age of social media and instant gratification, even getting this far into a newsletter can be a chore. I recently deleted the social apps which I would compulsively pick up my phone to scroll mindlessly on. My goal is to manage even how I interact with text messages, so as not to be controlled by my device. In the wake of this lifestyle change, things like watching ants crawl around have become an enjoyable pass time again, and I've finally gotten round to doing a little coding in my spare time.

Be bored with others. Be bored alone. Be boring to people not on the path you need to be on.

~Cyrus

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